Hi! Have you attended a school reunion? It’s a great time to meet your friends and classmates you’ve never seen for a long time. It’s a time to update one another and share stories as well. I remember one instance while we were enjoying our drinks and cocktails when my classmates and I had a chat and discussion about our own achievements in life. Ryan proudly shared about a flourishing business he has been managing for years. Sally discussed with the group the huge mansion she and her husband constructed in a prime lot. James presented his 8-figure bank savings and the shares of big companies which he bought. Rose told the group that she had just promoted to a highest position in the the company she has been working. When it’s time for me to talk about my achievement, I paused for a moment and excitedly shared mine. After I had shared mine, they stopped for a while and were surprised. I noticed that their eyes got big, and they cleared their throats. I believe that they were humbled, got envied and were happy for me for my greatest achievement. Do you want to know my greatest treasure, investment and achievement? They are my kids. They are my precious gems. They are my life. They are everything to me. I’m so proud of them. They grew up with manners, character and values. Why? Because I was able to teach, mold, form and guide them.
The family is not simply the basic unit in the society. It is the first school, the first church and the first community as well. It is in the family where kids learn about God and life. It is in the family where values are formed. It is at home where character is molded. Parents are the first teachers and preachers. They are the ones who introduce God, spirituality and prayer to the children. Children learn first about life, the world, relationships, values and other things at home. Children learn through imitation. They develop skills and values by following the examples of adults and parents in the family. This is the crucial and important role played by parents in the family. This explains why it’s important to invest in nurturing and forming our kids. It entails a lot of time, efforts, patience, passion and resources. The kind of persons we are right now is reflection of the kind of family we belong to. The family is the foundation of human society, personal development and human growth.
I am proud to say that I was able to guide, grow, nurture, train and teach my kids well. I helped them become good, mature, responsible and disciplined persons. I nourished their hearts with my love, nurtured their souls with my care and developed their character with my values. Friends, I hope that my experience will be of great help to you. If this does not suffice, I am personally recommending this online class/module to develop practical skills in raising happy kids, and become happier yourself. Check out this helpful and great Parenting Class. Develop the essential skills of a parent. Know how to raise kids with values and character. Share your experiences with other parents. Learn from the stories and pieces of advice of other parents. Hey, it’s time to invest in your family! It’s the only family you’ve got!

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Let me ask you to do something for a moment. Follow the directions carefully. Close your eyes. Think of 3 things that you like most about yourself…..(pause)…Don’t be in hurry… Take you time… If you’re done thinking of them, think of another set of 3 good things about yourself…….. (pause)… If you’re done, think of 3 more gifts and talents that you have…..(pause)… Think of another set of three…..(pause)… Don’t stop thinking of another set of three until I ask you stop…. (pause for 5 minutes)
STOP!
Did you have difficulty doing the simple activity? Why?
Are comfortable doing it? Why?
Were you surprised of what you’ve thought of? Why?
I guess most of us are not used to this kind of activity. Why? Because the things we thought of earlier are different from what we hear from people around us, and contradictory to our parents and loved ones have been telling us. “You’re no good!” “You can’t do it!” “You’re the worst person I’ve ever met!” “You’re the biggest mistake that ever happened in my life!” “You’re lazy and irresponsible!” “You’re an idiot!”
There are problems in a relationship because there are some words that should not be said, but uttered, and things that need to be said which are left unsaid due to complacency and fear of rejection.
The first love language is Words of Affirmation. There are people who are hungry and thirsty to hear
words that will compliment and affirm them, that will bring out the best in them and that will appreciate their beauty and goodness. A simple “thank you” may express appreciation for one’s efforts. A “You can do it” remark may encourage and motivate someone to pursue his goal. A “very good” comment may challenge someone to give his best. Don’t be stingy in affirming your friends and love ones. Words can make and transform a person. Words can give life and hope. Words can inspire people. And so, what are you waiting for? Open you lips, tell your spouse, your kids, your friends, your parents, your co-workers and the people around you how special, beautiful and awesome they are.
Words fuel, animate and energize a relationship. Verbal communication is essential in strengthening your relationship! Speak your partner’s love language! Affirm and appreciate him/her!

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Hi friend! I’ve heard of news of couples who used to be filled with love, and who passionately loved each other, but eventually got separated. The sparks on their eyes which they had when they first met dwindled and lasted only for a couple of years. Their hearts which were once on fire, ended up cold and apathetic. They used to kiss and embrace each other. Saying “I love you” had become their morning ritual and evening lullaby for years. People would consider them as a perfect couple for the love they showed to each other. What happened? What’s wrong?

They did not know each other’s love language. No matter how much love one has for the other, and no matter how often one expresses it, it would still be nothing if one does not know the other’s love language. Love is not merely a feeling that fades. It is a language that needs to be learned, communicated and recognized. There are 5 languages in human relationship. Please refer to my previous post about this. I will be explaining each language and how to express each well in my succeeding posts.

How do you know your own (or your partner’s) love language? These are three things that you need to observe and study to know your own love language.

First, observe how you express more often your love to your partner. What are you fond of doing for your partner? This is the manner you express your love. You do it naturally and spontaneously, without being told and taught because this is who you are. This is how your love tank is built for. (I will explain what love tank is in my next posts) It is part of your system, and so you don’t have to think and decide when you do it. It comes out spontaneously. Have you caught yourself hugging your partner without any reason at all? Or giving your partner gifts even though there are no occasions and special events?
Second, notice what you complain about the most. You complain about it always because it is something you want to be appropriately addressed. You always perceive and talk about it, and not ignore it, because it matters to you. Do you and your partner always fight because he/she is always busy with a lot of things, and so having no time to spend together? Do you always complain about your partner not remembering your birthday and anniversary?
Lastly, know what you always ask/request from your partner. You most often ask for it because it will bring you joy and satisfaction. No matter how petty and small it is, you would fight for it, just to have it. It’s the way you want to be loved by your partner. The quantity, amount and frequency may not be counted and may not matter as long as love is expressed in the manner you want to be loved. Have you noticed your partner wondering why you’re crazy about a cheap chocolate being given to him/her on special occasion? Is your partner perplexed why you love to be with him/her for hours, doing nothing and talking about nothing?
Now, you know your love language, it’s time to know your partner’s love language. In my next post, I will be sharing with you a quiz/survey you have to take, or let your partner take to know your or his love language.
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Hi friend! How are you? I hope that you’re enjoying your life. I want to share something interesting and meaningful with you. But before that, let me ask some personal questions.
Have you experienced problems in your relationship?
Have you encountered conflicts and misunderstanding in your marriage?
Are you about to give up on your partner?
Have you been accused of your friend or partner that you don’t love him/her?
Are you confused sometimes that no matter what you do to express your love to someone, it’s still not sufficient, not recognized, and not appreciated?
These questions will lead us to a great discussion on love and relationship. One of the reasons that there are broken relationships and marriages is that people have difficulty expressing their love to their partner, and their partner don’ feel, recognize and appreciate their love. Loving someone entails knowing the love language of one’s partner. No matter how one tries his best to love another person, this love will not be felt and recognized by the other if it is not expressed in his love language. Each person has his own love language. And we need to love the other not in the way we want to love him/her, but in the way he/she wants to be loved. This is what love language is all about. It is the form of love that one can easily understand and feel.

There are 5 love languages. A person may have one or more love languages, but one is dominant. Identify which your love language is. How do you want to be loved?
1. Touch
2. Words
3. Service
4. Gifts
5. Time
If you really love your friend or partner, you will try to know his/her love language, and love him/her in the way he/she wants to be loved. We need to consider their needs, not ours. In this way, no love will go to waste, misunderstandings and conflicts will be resolved, relationship will be deepened and strengthened, and doubts and fears will be lessened. My friend, Speak Your Partner’s Love Language! Moreover, one way to know your own love language is checking how you express your love to others. The way we love others is also the way we want to be loved.

Watch our for my succeeding posts. I will be explaining more what love language is. Subscribe to my Newsletter and Feeds to be updated.

If you want to know more how to deepen and improve your relationships, I strongly recommend that you consult this resource. I will be posting more recommended resources in my next posts. Invest in your relationships. Reap the fruits of your investment in the future. Have a great and love-filled day!

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So many people confuse sex or the act of making love as intimacy. They couldn’t be more wrong!  Understanding intimacy is very important when in a relationship with someone, for it is only in understanding intimacy that we can truly achieve it.

In understanding intimacy one needs to firstly understand that true intimacy is about connecting on a deep and intimate level with someone . Intimacy is about sharing your needs and desires and your inner most feelings with someone together with sharing your body.

Why do so many of us have trouble understanding Intimacy?

I suppose intimacy is not really someone we learn at school and sometimes things happen to us in our journey through life that cause us to fear intimacy.  For real intimacy to be achieved the basis is trust.  Trusting in yourself and trusting another person enough for them to know everything about you.  Everything about how you feel, what you like, what your fears are, to know and understand you physically on a sexual level.

Understanding intimacy and wanting to achieve it with someone takes courage and commitment and of course love. Courage to expose yourself to someone else, so they can truly see you for who you are. Understanding intimacy and wanting to achieve it certainly takes commitment, a dedication to the relationship, a willingness to grow and learn with and about the other person.

More tips on understanding and achieving intimacy can be found here.

When we begin a relationship intimacy is simple, we cannot seem to get enough of that person!  As time passes however and the relationship continues it is very easy to slip into complacency. Remember being in a relationship and being intimate with someone takes effort!

One of the most important ingredients in a successful intimate relationship is the ability to communicate.  Communicate when you like something the other person does not just when you don’t!  Communication sexually is just as important.

Understanding intimacy and achieving it with a partner brings a special bond, its the very basis for getting up each day, that passion and desire for another!

By

MaryAnn Roche

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