Three Great Steps To Overcoming Your Fears!
Posted on October 7th, 2008 by Maryann in Self Improvement Top TipsHere are 3 steps to Overcoming Your Fears
Has fear ever held you back by preventing you from doing something? If so, you’re not alone. Everyday, people are being held back by fear.
Fear can have a very negative impact on your life. It can prevent you from following your dreams, taking risks, or from achieving success. If you let yourself be held back by fear, it can paralyze you. It can take away some of the quality of your life and keep you inactive and not following your dreams.
While fear is natural, common, and normal, too much fear is not a good thing. There are steps you can take to help control your fear and ways of overcoming your fear – here’s a few!
1) Change your expectations- A big contributor to fear is expecting negative things. Are you always expecting the worst? Are you the type of person who obsessively worries about all the terrible things that could go wrong instead of focusing on the positive?
Make a choice to expect good things and to see the positive out of every situation. Tell yourself that you are stronger than you think and you can actually handle more than you know. When you don’t view things so negatively, you don’t have so much fear to deal with. You may not be able to take away all fear all the time, but you can keep it in perspective.
2) Discredit your fears- Even though it’s true that most of the things you fear won’t actually happen, that doesn’t help when you are paralyzed by fear. By examining your fears closely, you should be able to dismiss a few of them and diminish most of them.
Let’s say you are terrified of speaking in public and your boss told you that you must give a presentation in front of your co-workers. What are your fears? You are probably terrified that all of your co-workers will make fun of you, you may even get fired, or your boss may lose respect for you. If you just bite the bullet and do your best, it will probably go well. Biting the bullet is a good way of overcoming your fears!
None of the things you fear so much are really likely to happen. In most cases the presentation will be just an ordinary event and you will realize all that fear and worry was over nothing. Instead of worrying, turn your fear into something positive by practicing on your presentation.
3) Do what you fear- If you realize that fear is just a feeling and many times you are fearing in vain, the fear becomes less powerful. You can choose to defeat your fears.
If you do something that you fear, you will see that it wasn’t as bad as you thought it was and you were worrying for nothing. The scary consequences are often exaggerated in your mind.
By looking at things in perspective you may see that it’s not likely for such negative consequences and you may feel more empowered to go ahead in spite of your fears. Don’t become reckless, but realize most fears are not founded, so don’t let your fear hold you back and prevent you from having a full life.
These are just a few ways to help you in overcoming your fears!
Have a great day – Kym
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