Actions speak louder than words. Although my parents will not say it, I believe that this is their favorite motto. I seldom hear them saying “I love you.” But, I can truly feel that they love me through the things they are doing for me. First, let’s talk about my loving mom. Every time I visit her home, she always cooks and serves me my favorite dishes. Since I live in a separate home with my kids, I still miss the things that my mom is doing for us, her children. What my mom has been doing for our family is still fresh in my mind. Her day starts early. She used to cook our breakfast before we go to school. While we are taking our meal, she would prepare our school uniform and the bags we would bring to school. When we leave for school, she would wash the dishes and clean the entire house. At midmorning, she would cook lunch for my father and my younger siblings, then washes the dishes afterwards. In the afternoon, she would go to the grocery store to buy items and food that will be needed for the next day. Then, she prepares our appetizing dinner in the evening, and washes the dishes after dinner. She even manages to help us in our assignments and lessons in school. If there will still be time, she will wash the clothes, and iron them. She retires late at night. This has been her daily routine for many years. She never gets tired, bored and burned out. Why? It is a labor of love. Now, let’s talk about my responsible father. He is always there to help me. I can still remember him driving us to school every morning and fetching us in the afternoon when my siblings and I were still studying. My dad is just a call away. When my car got towed, he rushed to the place few minutes after I had called him. When my kid got locked up in the bedroom, he came to the rescue. During my first year of living in a separate house, he extended his assistance to us in fixing plumbing and electrical problems. That’s my dad! He never runs our of energy to help us. Why? It’s a labor of love!
There are people who express their love through acts of service. They do them without being told, because it is their nature and their love language. They feel content, fulfilled, happy and appreciated when they serve people. Loving acts are living expressions of love. They have more impact and more meaning. They will never be forgotten. They will forever be etched in the hearts of people dear to you. Be creative in serving your loved ones. Surprise them! Know what they like. Love them in the way they want to be loved. Get out of your comfort zone and invest in your relationships. Serve your spouse a breakfast in bed. Pause from your busy schedule, and accompany your kids in their sports events, dance contests or buying their clothes. Help your friends in their chores. Feed and take care of a sick family member. Pay your parents a visit, give them a relaxing massage. Bear in mind that actions speak louder than words. Words are not enough. They should be translated into actions to make love real and tangible.
When is the last time you served your spouse, your kids, your family and loved ones? What’s the last deed you have done out of love? Here’s the challenge for you. Create a list of acts of service you plan to do for your loved ones. At the end of the week, check what you will be able to accomplish. Expect that your relationships will never be the same again!
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Hi! I want to tell you something about my special friend. Since we became friends, I have been her shopping companion. Every month, she invites me to accompany her in going to malls and stores, and buy stuff like cards, home decorations, shirts, perfume, food, jewelries and other things. Even though she does not have enough money sometimes, she makes it a point to shop once a month. Out of curiosity, I asked her about this intriguing monthly hobby of her. “What are these for? When will you use them?” I was surprised by her answer, “I will not use them.” “What!”, I replied, “Why are you buying things if you won’t use them? Why are you wasting your money?” With a smile on her face she answered, “They are not mine. I will give them to my friends and loved ones.” After years of accompanying her in shopping, it’s only then when I discovered that she does not miss sending gifts to her loved ones and friends on their birthdays, special occasions and holidays. She loves giving gifts as expression of her love and appreciation for a person. I believe that this is also her love language. The way we often express our love to your friends is the way we want to be loved as well. Gifts are concrete, visible and tangible expressions of our love for others. The price of the gift does not matter. In the language of love, a brand new car has the same value as a simple card. It is the thoughts that count. What is important is that you remember the person on his/her special day. Have you experienced being ignored, left out and abandoned? It’s also the feeling when special days that mean to you are forgotten by people dear to you. There are many people in a relationship who broke up for not being remembered and not receiving gifts on their birthdays. There are many married couples who separated for consistent disregard, and not receiving gifts on their anniversaries. There are many friends who fought for not greeting each other and not receiving gifts during holidays. It may seem simple and small, but it means a lot to people whose love language is receiving gifts. It’s the fuel to his love tank. It’s the fire that ignites his heart. It’s the energy that animates his life. It’s the oxygen that sustains him. It’s everything to him.
When is the last time you sent gifts to your loved ones? It’s time to express your love concretely through gifts. Invest in your relationship! In the end, it’s the love we share that will last and count. I personally recommend this website. Check out great gifts at affordable prices you can send your loved ones.
One time, my 15-year old nephew asked me a question that surprised me. I was not expecting that he would ask me this question, “Does my father love me?” I did not see any valid reason for him to ask me this. Without second thoughts, I answered “Yes, of course, he loves you so much.” Then, I began rationalizing, groping for answers and providing explanations to convince him that his father loves him very much. I told him that his father has been working hard just to provide for his needs. During birthdays, holidays and special occasions his father would never forget to give him gifts. His father would give him any amount of money he would ask from him. His father sent him to a prestigious school for him to have a good education and bright future. His father would buy him expensive branded clothes. His father hired 2 nannies who would take care of him. I even told my nephew that he is luckier that other kids because he has a dad who is a responsible person and good provider. After hours of debate and persuasion that seemed would not end, he did not change his conviction as if he did not hear anything from me. He still doubted his father’s love for him. Why?
Since I was not able to convince him after all the efforts of I did, I asked him the reason for asking the question. He gave me a simple answer that made me rethink, “I have all the things that I need, but my father is not always there for me.” This shocked me and made me pause and reflect. I realized that my nephew has a point. What would he do with all the expensive stuff and the large amount of money he has if he seldom sees his father. Even though his father is so sincere in expressing his love to my nephew through gifts this love will not be appreciated and recognized. For a long time the father has not loving his child in the way the child wants to be loved. And so, the child does not feel his love. Quality time is love language of the child.
Quality time is spending time with each other with undivided attention. It’s not simply eating together, playing together, or doing something together. It’ “being” together. It’s a “being-to-being” encounter, a person-to-person encounter. The activities we do together may not matter more. It’t the quality of time we spend together. The activities that we do are just opportunities or instruments through we can share ourselves with each other. It’s not the quantity of time that matters, but the quality of time.
When we spend quality time with our loved ones, we enter into another world where there are no paper works, deadlines, meetings, work stress, business pressure, memos, etc. It’s a realm where only you and your loved ones exist. We share our stories, joys, griefs, sorrows, dreams, triumphs, secrets, and our very own selves with each other. No phone calls, worries, fears, customers, bosses, etc. can disturb us. It’s a radical stop from the daily routine of life. It’s a special world where love, joy, peace and intimacy overflow. A minute of Quality Time cannot be compared with a thousand days of Time spent with divided attention and disruptions!
How much QUALITY TIME have you spent with your loved ones? It’s time to invest you time in your relationships!
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Let me ask you to do something for a moment. Follow the directions carefully. Close your eyes. Think of 3 things that you like most about yourself…..(pause)…Don’t be in hurry… Take you time… If you’re done thinking of them, think of another set of 3 good things about yourself…….. (pause)… If you’re done, think of 3 more gifts and talents that you have…..(pause)… Think of another set of three…..(pause)… Don’t stop thinking of another set of three until I ask you stop…. (pause for 5 minutes)
STOP!
Did you have difficulty doing the simple activity? Why?
Are comfortable doing it? Why?
Were you surprised of what you’ve thought of? Why?
I guess most of us are not used to this kind of activity. Why? Because the things we thought of earlier are different from what we hear from people around us, and contradictory to our parents and loved ones have been telling us. “You’re no good!” “You can’t do it!” “You’re the worst person I’ve ever met!” “You’re the biggest mistake that ever happened in my life!” “You’re lazy and irresponsible!” “You’re an idiot!” There are problems in a relationship because there are some words that should not be said, but uttered, and things that need to be said which are left unsaid due to complacency and fear of rejection.
The first love language is Words of Affirmation. There are people who are hungry and thirsty to hear
words that will compliment and affirm them, that will bring out the best in them and that will appreciate their beauty and goodness. A simple “thank you” may express appreciation for one’s efforts. A “You can do it” remark may encourage and motivate someone to pursue his goal. A “very good” comment may challenge someone to give his best. Don’t be stingy in affirming your friends and love ones. Words can make and transform a person. Words can give life and hope. Words can inspire people. And so, what are you waiting for? Open you lips, tell your spouse, your kids, your friends, your parents, your co-workers and the people around you how special, beautiful and awesome they are.
Words fuel, animate and energize a relationship. Verbal communication is essential in strengthening your relationship! Speak your partner’s love language! Affirm and appreciate him/her!
I’m recommending this book. Check it out and know the love language of your kids.
Love is a universal language. It is understood and expressed by anyone despite the differences in culture, condition, gender, age, status, language/dialect, beliefs and personality. Wherever you go and what the time/period is, love is in the air! We cannot but love. It’s the very reason for existence! It gives meaning, color and significance to life. What is life is you don’t have anyone to share it with!
Though love can be understood by anyone, in a relationship it needs to be expressed appropriately. This is the reason that we are encouraged to know our love language and our partner’s/friends’. It is a key to a healthy, deep and meaningful relationship. By the way, here is the love language test I promised you. Please click on the link, and take the test. Enjoy loving! Live LOVE and LOVE life!
First, let’s talk about my loving mom. Every time I visit her home, she always cooks and serves me my favorite dishes. Since I live in a separate home with my kids, I still miss the things that my mom is doing for us, her children. What my mom has been doing for our family is still fresh in my mind. Her day starts early. She used to cook our breakfast before we go to school. While we are taking our meal, she would prepare our school uniform and the bags we would bring to school. When we leave for school, she would wash the dishes and clean the entire house. At midmorning, she would cook lunch for my father and my younger siblings, then washes the dishes afterwards. In the afternoon, she would go to the grocery store to buy items and food that will be needed for the next day. Then, she prepares our appetizing dinner in the evening, and washes the dishes after dinner. She even manages to help us in our assignments and lessons in school. If there will still be time, she will wash the clothes, and iron them. She retires late at night. This has been her daily routine for many years. She never gets tired, bored and burned out. Why? It is a labor of love.
Now, let’s talk about my responsible father. He is always there to help me. I can still remember him driving us to school every morning and fetching us in the afternoon when my siblings and I were still studying. My dad is just a call away. When my car got towed, he rushed to the place few minutes after I had called him. When my kid got locked up in the bedroom, he came to the rescue. During my first year of living in a separate house, he extended his assistance to us in fixing plumbing and electrical problems. That’s my dad! He never runs our of energy to help us. Why? It’s a labor of love!
Be creative in serving your loved ones. Surprise them! Know what they like. Love them in the way they want to be loved. Get out of your comfort zone and invest in your relationships. Serve your spouse a breakfast in bed. Pause from your busy schedule, and accompany your kids in their sports events, dance contests or buying their clothes. Help your friends in their chores. Feed and take care of a sick family member. Pay your parents a visit, give them a relaxing massage. Bear in mind that actions speak louder than words. Words are not enough. They should be translated into actions to make love real and tangible.
Are you looking for ideas how to love and serve your loved ones? It’s time to treat those people who occupy a special place in your heart. Check this out!
Gifts are concrete, visible and tangible expressions of our love for others. The price of the gift does not matter. In the language of love, a brand new car has the same value as a simple card. It is the thoughts that count. What is important is that you remember the person on his/her special day. Have you experienced being ignored, left out and abandoned? It’s also the feeling when special days that mean to you are forgotten by people dear to you. There are many people in a relationship who broke up for not being remembered and not receiving gifts on their birthdays. There are many married couples who separated for consistent disregard, and not receiving gifts on their anniversaries. There are many friends who fought for not greeting each other and not receiving gifts during holidays. It may seem simple and small, but it means a lot to people whose love language is receiving gifts. It’s the fuel to his love tank. It’s the fire that ignites his heart. It’s the energy that animates his life. It’s the oxygen that sustains him. It’s everything to him.
There are problems in a relationship because there are some words that should not be said, but uttered, and things that need to be said which are left unsaid due to complacency and fear of rejection.
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