Hi friend! Let’s chat about love life? How’s your love life? Let’s get personal and intimate in our chat. Have you experienced problems in your relationship? Have you encountered conflicts and misunderstandings in your marriage? Are you about to give up on your partner? Have you been accused of your friend or partner that you don’t love him/her?
Are you confused sometimes that no matter what you do to express your love to someone, it’s still not sufficient, not recognized, and not appreciated?
These questions will lead us to a very enlightening discussion on love and relationship. One of the reasons that there are broken relationships and marriages is that people have difficulty expressing their love to their partner, and their partner don’ feel, recognize and appreciate their love. Loving someone entails knowing the love language of one’s partner. No matter how one tries his best to love another person, this love will not be felt and recognized by the other if it is not expressed in his love language. Each person has his own love language. And we need to love the other not in the way we want to love him/her, but in the way he/she wants to be loved. This is what love language is all about. It is the form of love that one can easily understand and feel.

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There are 5 love languages. A person may have one or more love languages, but one is dominant.
1. Physical Touch
2. Words of Affirmation
3. Acts of Service
4. Receiving Gifts
5. Quality Time
If you really love your friend/partner, you will try to know his/her love language, and love him/her in the way he/she wants to be loved. We need to consider his/her needs, not ours. In this way, no love will go to waste, misunderstandings and conflicts will be resolved, relationship will be deepened and strengthened, and doubts and fears will be lessened. My friend, Speak Your Partner’s Love Language!

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How do you know your own love language? These are three things that you need to observe and study to know your own love language. Answer these questions sincerely and honestly and you will know your love language.
1. How do you always express your love to your partner?
2. What do you often complain about in your relationship?
3. What do you always request and ask from your partner?

The quiz below will assist you too in discovering your love language. You may ask your partner to take the quiz as well.

Select the one you prefer most of your two options, the one that fits the best right now.
1.
I like to receive notes of affirmation. A
I like to be hugged. E
2.
I like to spend one-to-one time with a person who is special to me. B
I feel loved when someone gives practical help to me. D
3.
I like it when people give me gifts. C
I like leisurely visits with friends and loved ones. B
4.
I feel loved when people do things to help me. D
I feel loved when people touch me. E
5.
I feel loved when someone I love or admire puts his or her arm around me. E
I feel loved when I receive a gift from someone I love or admire. C
6.
I like to go places with friends and loved ones. B
I like to high-five or hold hands with people who are special to me. E
7.
Visible symbols of love (gifts) are very important to me. C
I feel loved when people affirm me. E
8.
I like to sit close to people whom I enjoy being around. E
I like for people to tell me I am beautiful/handsome. A
9.
I like to spend time with friends and loved ones. B
I like to receive little gifts from friends and loved ones. C
10.
Words of acceptance are important to me. A
I know someone loves me when he or she helps me. A
11.
I like being together and doing things with friends and loved ones. B
I like it when kind words are spoken to me. A
12.
What someone does affects me more than what he or she says. D
Hugs make me feel connected and valued. E
13.
I value praise and try to avoid criticism. A
Several small gifts mean more to me than one large gift. C
14.
I feel close to someone when we are talking or doing something together. B
I feel closer to friends and loved ones when they touch me often. E
15.
I like for people to compliment my achievements. A
I know people love me when they do things for me that they don’t enjoy doing. D
16.
I like to be touched as friends and loved ones walk by. E
I like it when people listen to me and show genuine interest in what I am saying. B
17.
I feel loved when friends and loved ones help me with jobs or projects. D
I really enjoy receiving gifts from friends and loved ones. C
18.
I like for people to compliment my appearance. A
I feel loved when people take time to understand my feelings. B
19.
I feel secure when a special person is touching me. E
Acts of service make me feel loved. D
20.
I appreciate the many things that special people do for me. D
I like receiving gifts that special people make for me. C
21.
I really enjoy the feeling I get when someone gives me undivided attention. B
I really enjoy the feeling I get when someone helps me make decisions. D
22.
I feel loved when a person celebrates my birthday with a gift. C
I feel loved when a person celebrates my birthday with meaningful words. A
23.
I know a person is thinking of me when he or she gives me a gift. C
I feel loved when a person helps with my chores. D
24.
I appreciate it when someone listens patiently and doesn’t interrupt me. B
I appreciate it when someone remembers special days with a gift. C
25.
I like knowing loved ones are concerned enough to help with my daily tasks. D
I enjoy extended trips with someone who is special to me. B
26.
I enjoy kissing or being kissed by people with whom I am close. E
I enjoy receiving a gift given for no special reason. C
27.
I like to be told that I am appreciated. A
I like for a person to look at me when we are talking. B
28.
Gifts from a friend or loved one are always special to me. C
I feel good when a friend or loved one touches me. E
29.
I feel loved when a person enthusiastically does some task I have requested. D
I feel loved when I am told how much I am needed. A
30.
I need to be touched every day. E
I need words of encouragement daily. A

A. TOTAL: ___ (Words)
B. TOTAL: ___ (Time)
C. TOTAL: ___ (Gifts)
D. TOTAL: ___ (Service)
E. TOTAL: ___ (Touch)

Each person has a primary and secondary love languages. Most of the time, you’re primary love language is what you need most, and the shift to the secondary love language depends on your mood, feelings and condition. The love language with the highest score is you primary love language, and second highest is your secondary love language.

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