Its about time you started Learning to Love Yourself!

Learning to love yourself can be a hard thing to do, especially when you have bad thoughts or a limiting belief and derogatory messages that play over and over in both your conscious and subconscious mind. A lot of these thoughts are instilled during your childhood, and unfortunately can be very debilitating for years to come! Its not a good thing, but are you aware that you are very likely to be suffering because of things your parents, teachers or friends etc said to you decades ago?

When you are a child and somebody tells you, you are no good, you believe them. When they said that you would never amount to anything, you believed them. Kids in particular believe things like, you’re stupid, retarded or weird! And the worst part is most of these ‘kids’ still believe this stuff to this very day – even if they’re not really consciously aware of these deep underlying beliefs.

Anyone suffering this anguish will be happy to know that you can do something about it and start learning to love yourself! Here are three really effective ways to start:

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Romancing the Stone? Nope! Romance yourself.

Think back and reminisce about the last love affair you had. Isn’t it right that in the beginning you and your loved one devoted a lot of time, care, attention and affection to each other? Didn’t you feel swept off your feet? Were you not blown away by the beauty of your partner? I bet he/she felt the same about you! One of the best ways to start learning to love yourself is to do the same thing, feel it but…. with yourself! Go on, treat yourself like a king or queen. Do all the things that make you feel the happiest. Hug yourself. Sweet-talk yourself. Buy yourself nice things. Spend quality time with yourself. Do it simply because you deserve it and you can!

What do you really think? Delve into your existing beliefs.
You might have suspected that you hold old and unhealthy thoughts in your head but do you actually know what they are? To be able to work out what the beliefs that are holding you back actually are, take yourself on an exploratory mission! Begin exploring your existing beliefs by writing them down on paper. Ask yourself questions like these: “My earliest memory of feeling stupid was . . .” “My mother always made me feel . . .” “My father always treated me like . . .” and so on.

The idea is to think back to an earlier time in your life and check out if you can pinpoint when and where your limiting thoughts got started. Then, rebut those thoughts. Are they still true? I doubt it if they were ever really true! Decide what you WANT to be true, and believe that instead! You can begin to replace the old negative beliefs by putting your focus on your new and improved beliefs. And better thought patterns!

I’m sure you have many good qualities! Check yourself out and emphasize your good qualities!
When you don’t feel good, your problems are on top of you or you have low self-esteem, you tend to focus on the things that are supposedly “wrong with you”. You dismiss the good things that you have going for you and things that are great about you! Turn this around NOW! Praise and encourage yourself when you are having a chat on the inside! (we all talk to ourselves!)

A big part of learning to love yourself is being nice to you!

When you do good, give yourself a pat on the back! When you achieve something, congratulate yourself! Say things like, “Wow, I’m really proud of myself for doing that” or “I’m so good, even though it was hard I did it!” Affirmations are great for when we are talking to ourselves! Say affirmations like these: “I am a valuable person. I have a lot to offer the world. I’m talented and successful.” Even a simple “heeeyyyy! lookin’ good” as you walk past a mirror is uplifting!

The more you do it, the more you’ll come to believe it!
I will write an article on the power of positive affirmations and post it here soon. I hope you have enjoyed today’s article and that you come back to visit me soon. This site is dedicated to making you feel better – so try out these ways in learning to love yourself and feel better now!

Have a great day!

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