I caught up with a friend for a coffee recently and she was telling me how had just had her regular session with her counsellor.  Being  recently married for the second time she told me there were so many issues surrounding her relationship that regular sessions helped her understand the important aspects of intimacy.

Interestingly enough she handed me a sheet of paper from her Counsellor outlining various aspects of intimacy and asked me if I felt I was ready for a relationship again.  Here’s what I read:

Communication Intimacy – Connecting with your partner through talking.  Sure I can do that I thought, that’s a no brainer.

Creative Intimacy – Sharing expressions of love in creative ways.  Hmm not sure I can remember how to do that, I guess it would come back to me with practise!

Emotional Intimacy – Being in tune with each other’s emotions.  Sure I can remember being in tune with someone like that but not convinced I want to be again..

Financial Intimacy – Developing a unified plan for budgeting, spending etc.  Well hmm, for a minute there I thought she said financial dependency and I nearly forgot everything then and there and went out and found myself a man!  Then I realised it was all about joining funds together and having to discuss what gets spent on what…ah no thanks.

Last but no least, Conflict Intimacy – Facing and struggling with differences together.  That’s where I really had to draw the line..Having been in a relationship for a very long time and trusting someone beyond anything to find out when it really mattered, when it was a life or death situation that there was no facing of a struggle together I had to wish for dear friend all the best in her relationship.

Yes negative I know, and perhaps one day I will be ready and willing to understand the complex issues of intimacy in a relationship but until then…its singledom for me!

By

Mary-Ann Roche.

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