Love Pain? Relationship Advice for You
Do you need some relationship advice? Are you or have you endured love pain that you just cant seem to get past?
It seems the ones we love the most are the same ones who get past our defences and are able to hurt us the most, true?
Why? because we care! we care what they think, what they say etc so we let them in close to us and then all of a sudden we can experience total and utter devastation 
Have you ever been hurt so badly that you thought you’d never come out on the other side? Perhaps you’re still holding onto that grief. If you are, then it’s time to learn how to let go of past love pain or any other type of relationship torment. You deserve to let it go and learn how to move forward with your life.
How can something you’ve kept inside for so long just be let go? It’s not an easy task, but it can be done with a little effort and self-reflection.
Please take this relationship advice….Holding onto past pain and anguish is a kind of self-inflicted torture that can cause serious health risks as well as emotional scarring. The truth is, when you cling to the past, you’re internally changing your present.
Great Relationship Advice….Losing Your Love Pain
1. Talk it out.
If the person who caused the hurt is still in your life, talk to them about the way they made you feel. If that person isn’t available, try to talk to a close friend or professional therapist about the situation.
* Getting your emotions out in the open can help you get over any resentment or anger you may be feeling. Bottling up your emotions is never a good thing. Let it all out in a constructive way and you’ll be amazed at how much better you’ll feel.
2. Make the first move.
You’re in charge of your pain. You’re the one who carries it around with you and you’re the only one who can change its intensity. It’s up to you to take control of the pain and take the first step towards making yourself feel better.
* Confront the cause of the pain and do everything in your power to get rid of it.
* Acknowledge that your pain is real and that a positive solution exists.
3. Know what’s holding you back.
What are you holding onto and why? Identify the things you’re keeping inside that you shouldn’t be.
* They may not even be aware they did anything to upset you. Whether or not they apologize isn’t important. While it may be nice, you can’t control others or force them to say sorry. However, by simply voicing your feelings, you are finding closure from the hurtful situation.
* Getting closure on something that was left open-ended can make a huge difference in letting things go.
* For example, maybe your best friend betrayed you in a way that broke your trust. Recognize this and figure out a way to finally deal with it. Get in touch with them again, then explain the pain they’ve caused.
4. Forgive and forget.
It may sound easier said than done, but forgiving someone who has hurt you can be extremely therapeutic. Strive to let things stay in the past and don’t allow them to affect your present. * Once you learn to forgive the people who’ve caused your pain, you will find it far easier to heal and move on with your life.
Make the conscious decision, today, to live your life free from pain and resentment.
Love Pain needs to be put in the past!
The best way to move forward is to forgive the past. If you can’t change the past, you might as well learn to accept it and move on. You’ll be glad you did once you see just how bright your future can be when you regain control of your life.
If you are suffering more than this relationship advice can help, please seek out someone to talk things over with. Maybe a professional is what you need – what ever you do – dont live on with love pain!
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The future can be a wonderful place – if you let it be!
Thanks for your comments Jonathan – hope you visit again soon!
take care – Kymmy
Forgive and forget is the best tips. Let it be bygones. You are committing to new relationship, just think of the future together.
I dont believe we are ever helpless!
Sometimes, misguided, uneducated, lost in the wilderness before we find clarity etc but never helpless!
we just need to find the place where we are best able to move forward and excel.
Thanks for dropping in!
Kymmy
Oh, this is so true!
All the advice in the world is good for nothing unless action is taken!
That goes for anything really! All the education in the world serves no purpose unless utilized!
It does take determination to get over anything especailly when your heart is broken.
But with strength and courage we can turn anything around and move forward to a better life!
Thanks for your comments – hope to see you back again soon.
Kymmy
Hi Katy – glad you like my idea’s!
I write a new article almost everyday of the week with Sunday being the usual exception,
so come back regularly and see what you may find of interest or value!
Thanks for stopping by!
take care – Kymmy
Getting over the pain and bitterness after a failed relationship is one of the most hardest and difficult steps to take. Your post is very useful and helpful to those people who are suffering from heartbreaking pain that one do not want to endure. Thumbs up for this one. In addition, if someone needs to move forward after the break-up he or she must have the determination to do it because leaving the past behind depends solely on the person who is carrying the problem because no matter how many good advices we share and they won’t listen then it is useless.
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Family problems are very much the nervous system and is not always easy to step on reconciliation! It is love inspires so it makes us helpless.